I admit, I’m guilty of being a perfectionist. I like everything to be lovely and beautiful and of quality if possible. This used to stop me from sharing my creativity with the world because my vision rarely matched my execution in the end. I’ve had to learn to let go of perfection, because it doesn’t exist. No matter how many times you refine something in your own power, in the end it will never be totally perfect. It may be really close, it may be wonderful, it could be excellent. When I realized the difference between excellence and perfection that was the turning post for me. Instead of obsessing over the things I couldn’t control, I learned to be excellent in what I could control. This new freedom, along with not caring what other people think about me or my creativity, has allowed me to openly share what’s in my heart and on my mind.
I sat down at my laptop to write a post and this title popped in my head. At first I thought it would be a list of things that bring me joy and gratitude in my life. But I immediately thought of my dear friend Joy Farrington. When I first met Joy in 2012 she was the colorful woman you see above. She’s still colorful as ever. Her hair is just long and brown now :). Joy lives up to her name, so much so that it’s made me think long and hard about the importance in naming a child. When I’m around her it’s non-stop laughs and light hearts.
Not too long ago I was chatting with a friend and they ended the conversation with, “love you more” after I told them that I loved them. I’ve heard this saying thousands of times before, and to be honest it’s always rubbed me the wrong way. But I’ve never stopped to actually process why it bothers me. This time I did. I come from a competitive environment of dreamers and over-achievers, even perfectionists. I think that ambition can be a great thing if it’s channeled in a healthy way. But I think that some things need not be a competition. I think the reason this phrase rubs me the wrong way is that there really isn’t a response to it aside from, “no, I love you more.” I guess you could stop and think about it and decide if they actually love you more than you love them. But that just takes you to a weird place, know what I mean?
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogantor rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Maybe I have heard this phrase over the years and assumed it was said in a boastful or rude way. Or maybe it’s just been frustration over the idea that people want to compete even when it comes to love. Obviously this is true because we have TV shows like “The Bachelor”. But I don’t like to compete when it comes to love. I think when we bring competition into love it can get ugly.
There have been times when my husband has said that he loves me and my immediate response has been to say that I love him more ;). I’m guilty of saying this too at times. But you know what? It irritates him too. So now I say, “I love you more than I did yesterday.”
When someone says that they love you more do you take it differently than I do?
I had the chance to chat with one of my nearest and dearest friends, Miranda Nelson, about her life as a Christian Vegan. Miranda is such a well of knowledge when it comes to scripture. She and her husband Jerame travel the world and share God’s love with others full time through their ministry, Living At His Feet. She also lives a fasted lifestyle, much like Daniel in the book of Daniel, by choosing a plant based diet and a life of consecration. I really connect with Miranda because this is the type of lifestyle I am also called to live. God has made that clear.
Miranda was the first Christian Vegan that I ever encountered, at least that I’ve been aware of. Over the years I’ve know a handful of Vegetarians who share my faith, but I’d never met a Vegan until Miranda. Since I’ve started this series of videos I have met several Christian Vegans through social media, and it’s been a wonderful experience getting to build community with like minds and hearts. One thing I love about Miranda’s particular way of eating is that she eats a very balanced plant based diet, not just fruit. Fruit is my go-to because all of my teeth are sweet, but in order to eat this way long term I think it’s important to find a balance.
Check out two of Miranda’s delicious recipes below and be sure to leave her some love on our Youtube video above.
Love Lezlie has been a part of Compassion since I started this blog in 2012. But I can’t say that I have been proactive about speaking up on issues like poverty and orphans like I now feel led to do so. I just got an email and it shared that a handful of Compassion bloggers are in the Dominican Republic this week working with orphans. The goal is to get as many of these beautiful children sponsored as possible. Oh, their little faces are so darling when you click the link. I’ve never been to the Dominican Republic so I am living vicariously through the other Compassion bloggers this week. If you are curious, you can follow them too.
I wanted to wish you all a Happy Valentine’s Day from myself and the love of my life, Clarence. When I think back on previous Valentine’s Days they have all been different. I saw a meme the other day on Instagram that reminded me of how we used to give everyone in our elementary class a card. But as we got older we stopped, and had to be intentional with who we’d select. It made me wonder about all of those years in between that many of my classmates and loved ones weren’t selected and how they must have felt. I can’t say that I have many memories of a guy walking up to me and asking me to be his Valentine. In middle school it was no big deal. Well I say that now, but I’m sure at the time I was crying myself to sleep to Fiona Apple:). And in high school, I was allowed to date (the last 2 years) so I automatically had a Valentine.
I enjoyed my previous Christian Vegan chat so much that I’ve decided to make this a series of videos. I think it’s fascinating to hear about other people’s journeys and how they arrive at a particular way of life. We all have to eat. And the decision of what we eat and how we eat is something that is within our own control once we are adults. Over the weekend I had the pleasure of chatting with Hellen whom I connected with on Instagram. She is a fellow Christian who adopted a plant based diet a year ago and hasn’t looked back. In fact, her husband and son decided to join her in this new lifestyle after watching an alarming video and experiencing drastic health improvements on a plant based diet.
I’m super excited because I just got a new box from Your Tea in the mail. You may remember me mentioning them from a post around this time last year when I tried and reviewed their Tiny Tea. I had amazing results with their Tiny Tea, it totally cured my sugar cravings and I lost a few pounds too. Over the past year they have added several new teas to their line, including their Anti-C (cellulite) tea. The box came with two week’s worth of tea, so I’ll be sure to record another review for you mid February.
Here is some yummy info on Anti-C Tea from Your Tea’s site.
specifically designed to assist with:
clears internal toxins and impurities
Contains: Pu Gong Ying, Green Tea, Fu Ling, Gou Qi
I recently had the chance to sit down with the lovely Ashton from Beauty I Am. I first met Ashton years ago through the Pasadena House Of Prayer where we both served in the prophetic prayer ministry. She was so quiet, but I could tell she knew more than most by the look in her eyes :). Shortly after we met, she created the non-profit Beauty I Am – an artist support group. I love what she’s doing and think she’s such a positive role model in this city, so when she asked if I would sit down to chat with her for a Featured Artist interview, I was honored.
Yesterday I attended a Jane Austen Tea Dace hosted by the Victorian Tea & Dance Society in Pasadena. As a girl I was always a fan of Jane Austen, my favorite was Emma. In college, I re-read her entire collection twice because I was an English major and could spend my time reading and writing all day. I used to wish I lived in the Regency Era along with her characters, it all seemed so lovely. So when I discovered that there was a group of people who host monthly dances a few blocks away from my apartment I was ecstatic. These people appeared to be the real deal, true fans of not only classical dancing but also big into community.
I invited my family to join me because they are avid readers and fans of Jane Austen too. It happened to be my cousin’s 18th birthday so we celebrated her special new year in this most unusual matter. None of us were sure what to expect, but were pleasantly surprised at the amount of people and the quality of the event. Here’s a taste of what we experienced.
Dancing, Set 1
Tea Time & a conversation about “The Politics of Tea”