So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things.
How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. – James 3:5-8
You know I didn’t realize that I was guilty of gossip until recently? I guess I always saw what I was doing as sharing information, just in case, just to warn, or just because. I’ve always been a keeper of secrets, so it was never about that. If someone confided in me, their secret would always be safe. But this was more so about just talking about a person when they weren’t around, usually about their behavior that frustrated me or upset me. I don’t remember the exact moment it happened, but sometime recently I felt a gentle poke as I was in mid sentence. And I realized what I was doing. And I suddenly saw it for what it was.
I shouldn’t say anything about a person that I wouldn’t say if they were standing right in front of me. And if someone else is speaking about a person in a negative light I now find myself coming to their defense in their absence. If I have a serious issue with a person I need to go directly to them, not all around them to avoid this issue.
I think there will be times where I will need to share what’s going on with someone just to get clarity. We all need to do that at times. I don’t see that as gossip necessarily, but I will definitely be aware of the fine line. I’ve learned to guard my words and if I don’t have anything nice to say then I shouldn’t say anything at all.
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