November 23, 2013 — 1 Comment

This is a subject that is really dear to my heart. I know what it’s like to be the favorite student, niece, friend and grandchild. That means I know what it’s like to be loved by one and hated by many. I also know what it’s like to close to someone who is not the favorite and the pain that comes from that experience. Why are some people so highly favored? Is it something that is earned, given, even bestowed? Is it a good thing? I guess I am writing out loud because it’s something that has followed me for most of my life. It’s a subject that is really interesting to me and I think it’s similar to fame.

It makes me think of Joseph in the Bible. He was clearly favored and hated so much by his brothers that they sold him into slavery. But that didn’t stop God’s plans for his life. He continued in favor and eventually became a ruler, a loving ruler, who chose to extend kindness to the very brothers who hated him earlier in life.

What are your thoughts of favoritism? Do you think we would be better off without it if that were even an option? I’d love to read your thoughts.

One response to Favoritism


    I think its somewhat natural for personality types to be attracted to eachother. It’s the reason we have friends and then have Besties…something clicks. I think as parents though we aren’t supposed to have favorites, we are supposed to love each of our children equally, and favoring one over another because one personality type clicks more than another with the parent, makes the child feel less loved, but I don’t think this is true. I have four daughters each one different from the others, and I have favorite things about each of them. I hope they know that they are each special but not loved more or less than the others. It’s a hard line to walk and I get that some parents don’t walk it with perfection (show me a perfect parent and ill show you someone who hasn’t had kids) … But I think “favor” is natural, the trick is to not let it get confused with love.


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