I wanted to wish you all a Happy Valentine’s Day from myself and the love of my life, Clarence. When I think back on previous Valentine’s Days they have all been different. I saw a meme the other day on Instagram that reminded me of how we used to give everyone in our elementary class a card. But as we got older we stopped, and had to be intentional with who we’d select. It made me wonder about all of those years in between that many of my classmates and loved ones weren’t selected and how they must have felt. I can’t say that I have many memories of a guy walking up to me and asking me to be his Valentine. In middle school it was no big deal. Well I say that now, but I’m sure at the time I was crying myself to sleep to Fiona Apple :). And in high school, I was allowed to date (the last 2 years) so I automatically had a Valentine.
I realize that this holiday, like many holidays, can be a bit stressful if life isn’t what you hoped it would be today. I want to encourage you if it isn’t, to try to remain grateful. It’s no secret that part of my personal struggle has been depression since early childhood and so I’ve had to make it a point to find ways to keep my positive outlook on life. What has helped me the most is to remain grateful. On days where I don’t know what to be grateful for, I just pull out my gratitude journal and start writing. Start with thanking God for your life. From there you can give thanks for the basics like a place to live and food to eat. After a while, other things will come to mind and before you know it you’ll see there’s a whole world out there to be grateful for.
If you are in a happy relationship and satisfied with life, I’d like to encourage you to remember gratitude as well. None of us know how long we will be here, so it’s important to express our gratitude to those who show us love on a daily basis. Try to remember empathy if you are around others who may not be as happy as you are today. There’s no need to boast about what your Valentine gave you to others. Instead, try to express love to those who may not have a Valentine. This doesn’t mean you can’t express gratitude to your Valentine privately or publicly, but I think if you are mindful you will sense the line between showing gratitude and boasting.
Here are a few of my favorite things I stumbled upon this week that express love.
- For Such A Time Designs – the cutest personalized gifts ever!
- Give Love On Valentine’s – lovely article from Fit To Be Admired.
- Walk In Love – Free gorgeous iPhone wallpaper!
- Matcha Love Truffles – yummy recipe I created for another website!
- 5 Love Languages – Discover your love language today!
Happy Valentine’s Day!